Aye not Nay

hsuhi- dreams

I’ve been distracted recently, allowing myself to get drawn into  discussions with another ‘writer’ on a writing community where he often resorts to making nasty and personal remarks. It is not just me that has experienced this torrid of vitriol and derision from him. I told myself that it helps when you can see that such behaviour and contempt is aimed at almost everyone, however that seems to me to be the wrong philosophy. As His Holiness the Dalai Lama once said:

‘Don’t let the behaviour of others destroy your inner Peace’

For a while this personal nastiness did temporarily knocked my confidence, destroy my inner peace. When you’re trying to have an intelligent conversation about dialogue tags, show and tell or the correct usage of adverbs in writing and the person’s replies deride your writing and states to everyone that you have no authority to have or give a view on writing it is hard to keep the faith. But I thought about His holiness’ words, I remembered that our dreams are what keeps us aiming for something better than we are today and grasped the nettle.

No one else can destroy your dreams unless you allow them too and if you give them permission to undermine you it will be to your own detriment. Don’t  worry about what others are doing or saying. In many ways it doesn’t matter why the other person acts as they do, what matters is carrying that confident stillness within yourself -that inner peace.

If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same – Rudyard Kipling

No-one in the world knows or understands the dreams you hold within you, nor cares as you do about those dreams being fulfilled. Allow no one to tell you that you should not dare to dream, or that you are less than you are. As an atheist it is odd for me to quote the bible, but when you come across those that would try to belittle you ‘turn the other cheek’.  Your energy is better spent on following your dreams. Do I have much to learn still to perfect the art of writing? You bet your booty I do, but I have also remembered how far I have come,  how experienced a writer I am and how much I and others enjoy my writing. So IF you want to succeed, say nay to the naysayers and follow your dreams.

I’ll leave you with Mr Rudyard Kipling with one of England’s finest poems.


IF you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:

If you can dream – and not make dreams your master;
If you can think – and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
‘ Or walk with Kings – nor lose the common touch,
if neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And – which is more – you’ll be a Man, my son!


About V C Willow

V C Willow has always loved to write and read for pleasure. During her teenage years she wrote a lot of poetry but graduated to writing Science Fiction, Fantasy, Epic Fiction, Urban Fantasy and Suspense as she reached her twenties. She is a geek and comic nerd. A very keen reader, an enthusiastic cook and gardener and loves to craft. She's even been known to get down and dirty and do some DIY. V.C live in Manchester, England with her ball of cat fluff, Willow. She is currently writing her début fantasy novel. You can follow her authors page on Facebook at: www.facebook.com/vcwillow Connect with her on Linked in at: uk.linkedin.com/pub/vc-willow/4b/b90/521 Follow her on Twitter: https://twitter.com/inquisitivevic Follow her on Goodreads: http://www.goodreads.com/user/show/5563938-v-c-willow )O(
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7 Responses to Aye not Nay

  1. VC — I too, (as you know), felt the “stinging contempt” of a writing teacher who is more interested in his students regurgitating his lessons than thinking for themselves. It was a challenge to my inner peace as well, and want you to know that I stand in solidarity with you.

  2. V C Willow says:

    Hi Fritz

    Firstly let me say, thank you! I hope you too have your inner peace restored.

    I am always suspicious of any ‘teacher’ that can not abide opposing views or contemplate they may have value. How can we develop and grow as writers improving our craft and perfecting the art of writing if we cannot:

    …… trust yourself when all men doubt you,
    But make allowance for their doubting too

    Those without any doubt are known as fanatics, especially when they need to convert everyone to their way of thinking.

    The problem is that any value their points may have are lost when they are shouted and shoved down others throats. I also worry that impressionable newer writers will be bullied into an unquestioning approach to writing, we should look at everything with a critical eye so we can make informed, thought out decisions about how we write.

    Still, we must keep our inner peace and not be distracted away from that by other’s behaviour.

  3. V C Willow says:

    Thanks Fritz, always glad to have people sharing my posts. Even if one thing I say is taken away from a post and put to good use then I consider it a success. As a writer, you know what a meat market it is out there so I’m more than happy to have my posts shared, facebooked, G+’d, tweeted and shared. Once my book is released or coming up for release I’ll be glad for every connection made, every person networked with and every person who’s decided to follow and friend me.

    Warmest and kindest regards Fritz

    V C

  4. Oh, yeah, I know it’s tough out there for authors, particularly self-published ones. But I don’t regret self-publishing yet. It’s unlikely that I ever will.

  5. Jim O'Brien says:

    V C, IF was my favorite poem as a street kid. As far as Mr. Distraction is concerned, he’s just another character in your book life. Sometimes they show up to stimulate an excellent writing response. Like your, Aye not Nay.

    • V C Willow says:

      Absolutely Jim, it’s also helped to confirm my confidence and my belief in myself and my writing. My creative juices are flowing. Glad you liked the post, I hope its been of some use to you and to other readers.


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